There’s so much talk online and in publications lately about the “elusive” work-life balance. How to get it. If it’s even possible to get. What to do to get that perfect balance between a thriving career and a fulfilling personal life. A lot of these articles are directed at women in women centric newsfeeds because, you know, you can’t have it all as a woman (*cringe).
We are on both sides of the argument (if that’s even allowed). And here’s why.
As young females starting a business, we know and feel the pressure to succeed daily. We’ve invested a lot in Alexa Lily (not only financially, but our time, our relationships, and our skills). We obviously do not want it to fail. We work extremely hard to make sure our vision gets carried to fruition, our products are of the top quality possible, our customers are happy and engaged. We know that in order for this business to grow, we have to put in the tough hours, have the uncomfortable conversations, and make the hard decisions to do what’s best for the business. No matter what Instagram makes it look like - starting a business is not glamorous. It’s only glamorous for that first meeting where you sit with your business partner and order a glass of bubbly at Tasha’s to celebrate your big idea and starting your business (which was so much fun!). From then on it’s a wild ride with many ups and downs (and many nights of drinking wine not because you’re celebrating anything, but because you’re down in the dumps about your next step). And it’s on those evenings, when you can’t even deal with what happened that day, that you actually can’t deal with having to make dinner for your family, get the kids bathed, and read that same bedtime story ten times in a row when you really want to rip Peppa Pig’s face off.
For that, for all those times, we feel that a perfectly balanced work-life and personal-life is impossible to get.
Then there are the times where we pinch ourselves that we have a myriad of things to be grateful for every single day. We’re not going to list them all here because if we even think of putting them down on paper we start to seriously feel guilty for writing anything negative just now! But even just the little things of being able to take ten minutes to ourselves to have a cup of coffee in silence every day. Or being able to read our favourite blog. Or listen to an inspiring podcast (FYI go listen to the Goop Podcast’s first episode with Oprah. Game. Changing). It’s the little joys every day that make our lives balanced.
And that’s why we’re on both sides. Sometimes we don’t feel like there is such as a thing as work-life balance. And other times we do. But that’s life! Life isn’t perfect and we don’t ever want it to be. We love our crazy up and down lives. We love finding the little things that make us content. We love those days when we feel like we want to rip our hair out, because it makes us appreciate the days when life is pure and utter bliss. Having both keeps you grounded and appreciative. And that’s the most important thing. It’s not to succeed. It’s not to be the best mother, the best partner, the best friend. It’s to stay true, to stay grounded, and to appreciate both the good and the bad.
A + J